James Macrone, Hinety Johnson, Vanessa Mintano, Bill Goldie, Dorothy Maina.
Can you recognize who these people are? Come on you can! Just try a little bit more to recall these names.
Can you? I guess you cannot, and no one can...ever!
Now, you may have given up. I too have. You are right! Nobody knows who these people are because they gave up on the face of failure. They thought they were failures. They were afraid to fail or be defeated. They didn’t want to fail and so they took little or no action at all to change their life.
They didn’t want to learn from their failures and make the necessary changes the next time they tried. They quit just when they were on the verge of success...just three feet from gold or one feet from a touch down. Sometimes when they failed the first time, they stopped and didn’t try one more time.
Had they known that failure is a gift wrapper with success being the gift, they would have gone a step further to unwrap the cover to enjoy the gift of success. Now you may have to unwrap many wrappers before you could enjoy the gift but if you keep at it, you will eventually have the GIFT.
The unwrapping process may take a bit longer with certain goals. But, that’s how life is. Actually, when you fail, you are in fact moving toward success. Never be afraid to fail when you try. Be afraid of failing when you don’t try.
The great and successful people always prove to be well balanced and in total control despite the external storms and gloom. They too fail but they stick to their ambitions in life till they succeed.
A child is conditioned from childhood that it should always succeed. Every single time. It is expected to succeed every single time by its parents, teachers, friends, relatives, neighbors, etc. It is taught not to fail or it is told that failure is bad. And the irony is, when the same child fails, the same parents who want to see the child as a great success in life label the child as "failure" not knowingly how big an impact that word can have on the child!
So when this child grows up to become a man or woman, it develops a sense of failure consciousness or it develops ways to avoid failure at any cost. That man or woman avoids pain, even when he or she knows deep down that the same things that bring pain now can bring great success in the future.
To avoid pain, the person takes as little action as possible. The attempts become less and less. No more experiment and adventure in life. No calculated risks. No sense of purpose. No self-confidence. The person starts to hide in the closet of life in the name of "Safety."
Instead of putting all the efforts on a chosen field of work, people are scared about the possibility of failure and literally expect failure to show up. They prejudge their own abilities and what they can or cannot do even without giving a serious try. They become spineless instead of fearless.
Because of the old conditioning, people don’t want to fail ever. They think they always have to succeed. They never get it that it is failure experiences that will finally hand them their success. They are emotionally weak and they cannot take failures or temporary defeats.
This is hurting many people today than ever. But remember, once a person understands that he or she should carry out his or her mission despite failures, he or she is assured of great success, with many successes to follow shortly.
You have to pass through failures to taste your success, at least this is how it is most of the time for most of the things in life. Courage has magic in it to turn around your life. And the biggest act of courage is to take consistent action steps regardless of how big the obstacle and failure seem to be.
The following two pearls of wisdom will give you a new weapon. A weapon that would destroy your old long-held false beliefs:
Shall we proceed?
1. “I will succeed the next time and I have improved” mentality:
After experiencing a failure think that you have crossed a major obstacle and are traveling at a high speed to touch that finishing point. Just thank God, for now you have learned a lesson from your failure. Actually what happens is that you become more and more skilled day after day if you only continue.
What’s the difference between the time you failed last and now?
The difference is that you have become better at doing the same thing in which you have failed. Most people quit because they think that they haven’t improved or seen any changes despite their hard efforts. But the truth is, at a subconscious level they is progressing. Never give up easily. Fight until your last breath.
2. Just do it and do it with all your potential:
You can become much more efficient in any work you do if you bring your focus and concentration to the fore and don’t care for the failure result.
“Do your best and, to the God, leave the rest.”
Always keep this in mind: Highly successful people fail many more times than an average person. This is the secret that not many know about.
Successful people just continue with their journey. They fail more and succeed more than the rest of the pack.
The management guru John C. Maxwell rightly said,
“People who fail forward are able to see errors or negative experiences as a regular part of life, learn from them, and then move on.”
Actually, one is failing forward when that person always learns from mistakes, corrects his or her action steps and consistently alters his or her plans coupled with unwavering, single-point focus on the dream.
That’s why the names Abraham Lincoln, Thomas Alva Edison, Helen Keller, Steve Jobs, Rocky Balboa, etc. strike a chord inside us as soon as we hear them.
Today is your day to fail successfully!
To Your Great Life,
Success Oceo
